How does forgiveness work?
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
The Washington Post's On Faith forum currently features bloggers commenting on how and whether the sexual lives (and infidelities) of public figures should be scrutinized. Underlying all this, of course, is the debate over whether the sexual behavior by individuals in a society is inherently a private or a public activity. And the opinions range from "It's nobody's business" (Susan Jacoby) to "Of course people have a right to know because it suggests something about the person's moral character and ability to lead" (Chuck Colson).
Christians might think how this issue relates to the way we treat one another in the church - particularly church leaders. In one Post commentary, the Rev. C. Welton Gaddy argues that adultery is no more serious than other sins and should be forgiven by the church. Grace, he says, is just as capable of healing folks of sexual sin as it is of any other sin. I say, "Amen to that!" But the question then becomes, "How does that forgiveness happen?" For instance, should we follow Matthew 18 and 1 Timothy 5 and make forgiveness a matter of the entire community? Following the logic of Titus 1, should forgiveness carry with it a necessary removal from ministerial office? That is to say, do we need to look hard at the way that grace and responsibility must go together? And is any of this different for a church leader than it is for a lay person?
My sense is that, while adultery is no more serious than other serious sin, it - like financial malfeasance - has the ability to do a disproportionate amount of harm to the body of Christ. Anyone familiar with a congregation where one of the pastoral leaders has commited adultery knows what I am talking about. And I worry that the church does not deal with such transgressions in ways that are both gracious and responsible. We get so freaked out by adultery that we either want to sweep it under the rug or punish it vindictively.
So what would a gracious and responsible ministry to sexual transgressors in the church look like? And why does this seem to be one area where the church fails so miserably?
Christians might think how this issue relates to the way we treat one another in the church - particularly church leaders. In one Post commentary, the Rev. C. Welton Gaddy argues that adultery is no more serious than other sins and should be forgiven by the church. Grace, he says, is just as capable of healing folks of sexual sin as it is of any other sin. I say, "Amen to that!" But the question then becomes, "How does that forgiveness happen?" For instance, should we follow Matthew 18 and 1 Timothy 5 and make forgiveness a matter of the entire community? Following the logic of Titus 1, should forgiveness carry with it a necessary removal from ministerial office? That is to say, do we need to look hard at the way that grace and responsibility must go together? And is any of this different for a church leader than it is for a lay person?
My sense is that, while adultery is no more serious than other serious sin, it - like financial malfeasance - has the ability to do a disproportionate amount of harm to the body of Christ. Anyone familiar with a congregation where one of the pastoral leaders has commited adultery knows what I am talking about. And I worry that the church does not deal with such transgressions in ways that are both gracious and responsible. We get so freaked out by adultery that we either want to sweep it under the rug or punish it vindictively.
So what would a gracious and responsible ministry to sexual transgressors in the church look like? And why does this seem to be one area where the church fails so miserably?



